The Hot Seat
Also known as reverse lapchair reverse cowgirlseated from behind
The Hot Seat is a seated position where one partner sits on a chair and the other lowers onto their lap facing away — combining the control of reverse cowgirl with the support of a chair.
The gist
A chair turns lap-sitting into something sustainable: the seated partner stays supported while the one on top faces away and controls depth and pace with their legs and the floor. The chair does the ergonomic work, making it comfortable to linger.
Step by step
One partner sits on a sturdy, armless chair, feet flat on the floor.
The other lowers onto their lap, facing away, feet planted for leverage.
The top partner uses the floor to control the pace and depth.
Lean back into the partner behind for support and closeness.
Tips
- A stable, armless chair (or the edge of a firm sofa) works best — avoid anything with wheels.
- The partner on top sets the rhythm; the one seated can keep their hands roaming.
Related
Reverse cowgirl
Reverse cowgirl is a partner-on-top position where the top partner faces away from their partner — offering a different angle and a hands-free view for both.
Seated
Seated positions have one partner sitting — on a chair, edge of the bed, or the floor — with the other on their lap, wrapping the pair into close, face-to-face contact.