The yes / no / maybe list, done right.
A yes/no/maybe list is the easiest way for a couple to find what you're both curious about. Answer privately, share a code with your partner, and you'll each see only the things you BOTH said yes or maybe to — a one-sided yes, a no, or a hard limit is never shown to the other person.
Before you start.
Answer honestly and privately. You control what happens next, and nothing is ever shared without you choosing to.
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Answer privately
Go through the list and mark each idea yes, maybe, no, or a hard limit. Only you can see your answers.
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Share a code
Get a private code or link and send it to your partner. They answer on their own, without seeing what you picked.
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See your overlap
When you both choose to reveal, you'll see only the ideas you both said yes or maybe to — a ready-made conversation.
The questions people ask.
Can my partner see what I picked?
No. You only ever see the things you both said yes or maybe to. A one-sided yes, any no, and any hard limit are never shown to the other person.
Do I need an account?
No. The tool works entirely without signing up. If you want to save your yes/maybe items, you can import them into a free Fervra account afterward — your choice.
Is this safe to open?
Yes. It's frank but not explicit, and nothing is stored against your identity — sessions are anonymous and auto-delete after 30 days.
What if we don't match on much?
That's useful too — it's a gentle way to learn where you each are, with no pressure. You can always retake it as things change.